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The Greatest Love Story

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The one whose arms fit perfectly around us

The one whose arms fit perfectly around us

We often wonder, savor, dream, or ruminate on the ideal love life. We get our notions from the media, experiences, and what we observe.  Snuggling under the blanket on a cold day, having moonlit dinners, and walking across the beach under a beautiful sunset with our partner are romantic notions that we have all yearned for or experienced at some point in our lives. But what happens after these romantic events are done?

I unabashedly admit that I am guilty of having these yearnings. Having someone to catch you when you fall or to experience new things with is a wonderful notion, but we (I) tend to forget the baggage that will come along with that someone.

Before we can even try to find that companion that will ‘complete us,’ before we can even begin to look outward to find the partner we are willing to compromise, sacrifice, and adjust for, our even before we can expect our current partner to complement us we need to look inward and complete ourselves.

Only once we know ourselves can we experience or expect to experience

Touch the one person who truly matters

Touch the one person who truly matters

anything satisfying. The most important relationship we develop is the one with ourselves.  Most of us live our whole lives not really knowing who we are: not knowing what we truly enjoy, what really bothers us, or what we actually want.  If we do not fully understand ourselves we wander through life waiting, hoping, and searching for the someone or something that will fulfill us.  When we nurture, spend time, and learn to listen to ourselves we can understand what we really want; when we recognize what makes us happy, what makes us sad, and what satisfies us we can ask for and seek the things we want and need instead of searching for thing that may or may not bring us fulfillment.

The reason we do not get what we want is because we do not really know what we want.  Humans are fickle, easily distracted, and impatient.  We think having a partner with xyz qualities will make us happy, but look the other way as soon as we see someone more appealing.  We are attracted to and seek out person x until we are introduced to a new and shiner prospective object of our attention.  When we see something that makes us happy we run after it and when it does not bare immediate fruit a new search will begin to that will aim to fill the void that our initial search failed to fill.

Once we begin our relationship ourselves we can better understand what we really need and want.  Developing a relation with yourself is as much of an investment as taking care of a new puppy or making a new friend; you will need to spend time by and with yourself in order to learn how you feel about things, how you react to things, and what the natural tendencies of your body are.  This is the study of the self on an intimate level. Study on this level will allow us to know ourselves on a soul level.

This study will not only be an enlightening and uplifting journey, it will introduce us to the greatest love of our lives, the one person we cannot live without. Finding out our strengths, weaknesses trigger points, fears, and motivators will give us a new understanding and guide us to a smoother path in life.  We will better be able to articulate what we want and what we don’t want.

Your love story will begin while on this journey; you will realize the height of your own accomplishments, the strength of your character, the wounds you have healed, and how deserving and unique you really are.  Once you know yourself you will automatically feel a sense of fulfillment and will start looking inwards rather than out for things that will make you happy.

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Newton’s law of karma: Hinduism’s law of motion

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who knew Dominos was a game of Karma?

who knew Dominos was a game of Karma?

Science has explained that when any object exerts a force, it is met with an equal and opposite force.  The collision of these two forces result in a movement.  The study of this movement is largely carried out by physicists, most notable of whom gave us our 3rd law of motion: for every action there is an opposite and equal reaction.  The application of this law extends beyond observable actions, such as a fish swimming in water, but affects our thoughts and has an implication in reincarnation.

The notion of reincarnation assumes that each life is a progression of the soul and the Law of Karma is the equalizer of that notion.  Like Newton’s law, the Law of Karma is a law produced by cause and effect. Actions we perform initiate reactions from other people, nature, or from ourselves. Reactions can be observed within minutes, days, years, or lifetimes.  Once we initiate an action, it is recorded in our ‘karmic bank account’ and considering the intent and outcome associated with our action, we receive either good or bad karma.

A boy jumping on the ground is a movement resulting from his jumping force; this force, coupled with the force the ground exerts to push him up results in his movement upwards; this is the law of motion. Intention is a major factor when assessing the karmic value of an action. Him jumping into the middle of the street to save a child is entirely different from him jumping over a fence to get away from the police.

People say that karma is ‘a bitch’. Yes. She is the bitch that bites back, but why? Because we make it so.   It is the man himself who prompts his suffering; every act, word, and thought has a rippling effect; it is this rippling effect that produces karma. So the cause(us) creates the effect (the outcome) and the outcome (the effect of the initial action) acts upon the initial cause (us.) Let me give you an example: when I was in law school I had a professor who after grading one of my first assignments predicted that I would fail out of her class and made other hurtful remarks. Several months later she was diagnosed with cancer.  Thus, she (cause) was rude and inappropriate which (effect) made myself and others doubt our own abilities.  Then she received a diagnosis of cancer (effect) which produced the same anguish and doubt (cause) for her. I’m not certain if this was a genetic limbo or the karmic hand, but I do know she will ‘reap what she has sowed.’

Every time we think, speak, or act we create an observable or unobservable effect.  We unleash an energy into the universe and that same energy finds its way back to us in some form; hence the saying we reap what we sow.  Sourced from the Bhagvad Gita, past Karma predetermines four main aspects of our lives: our birth family, our income level, our education level, and our physical appearance. Just these four factors have a very strong influence on our lives, and then, in addition, we struggle with karmic reactions daily. Although Karma does not eradicate free will, the Vedic texts do tell us that ‘actions are guided by the Law of Karma and free will is very limited.’

Hinduism believes that all souls are eternal and are stuck in this vicious cycle of rebirth: samsara.  Every life is not only a progression of our soul, but is determined by past karmas; good karma elicits good fortune while bad karma results in misery and misfortune.  Although this is far from the complete understanding of Karma, I am not here to preach or promote Hinduism; I am here to heighten the awareness of YOUR soul and internal power. So act consciously because the love, hate, manipulation, or compassion you give to others is what you will get back; in this life or the next.

Please visit http://hinduism.iskcon.org/concepts/103.htm for more information on karma.

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