Category Archives: Faith and Belief

What you see is what you get

What you perceive is what's important

What you perceive is what’s important

People wish, want, and pray real hard for that ideal partner, that promotion at work, monetary success, or a better life, but we usually don’t get it.  Despite how much we think we want something, our actions, thoughts, and energies sometimes say something different.  We dream and wish for a partner with specific traits, but when we find them we question this reality.  I always dreamt of finding someone who would love me inspire of and despite my condition, and after coming across this person my suspicions pertaining to his sincerity, loyalty, and motive grow endlessly.  I got what I always wanted, but now that I got it I am thinking and sending energies and affirmations that contradict the very manifestation that I wanted.

If you continue to see the negative then that is what you will receive.  Pessimism is vicious cycle: no matter how much one wills or wants to receive and be part of something positive their pessimicity will always come in the way.  Many of us have wanted to change jobs, maybe even career paths at some point, but when that opportunity comes we second guess it either because of security, comfort, or disbelief. If you wake up at 8 every day with a grunt to go to a job that you could enjoy, but refuse to look past the hours you are putting in, the increasing workload, or to the monotonous tasks to what you are receiving, then the first reaction to everything will be a grunt.  Most jobs are roughly 9 hours hence it is important to be comfortable when we are there as it occupies more than half our day.  So if you chose to change jobs make sure it is not your perception and negativity forcing you on, but some other motivation.

Seeing an inadequate job will make that job inadequate. Once you convince your mind that your job is inadequate, your mind will reciprocate and only hone in on things that convince you that your job is inadequate.  When you constantly read about and see infidelity, your mind will take no extra time in raising suspicions and pointing out the negative qualities of your partner.   This is not to say that you should censor your mind, but if you constantly feed negativity to your mind that is what you will see and become.  Our minds are thus susceptible, but also influencable.

When your mind is positive, what you see will be positive.  Your mind controls the hue, emotion, and meaning of everything your eyes see. So even when we get what we want our minds can blur our vision so much so that it is construed as something we don’t want. Similarly,

When you can see the rainbow admist the rain, clouds, and dreariness that is what you'll get

When you can see the rainbow admist the rain, clouds, and dreariness that is what you’ll get

when we get something we don’t want our minds can construe it as something positive.  Negativity (pessimism, criticism, complaining etc.) narrows and blinds our minds whereas positivity (optimism, resourcefulness, happiness etc.) opens our minds to possibilities.

Getting what we want involves two things: first there needs to be active participation in attaining the item sought. This means that dreaming is not enough; we need to make a conscious effort towards attaining what we want. We can think about it, imagine what it would be like to have it, or act as though achieving it is inevitable.  Second, once the item is in our horizon of acquisition don’t question it. Unknowingly we question and contradict our own efforts and realizations when trying to make our dreams come true by disbelieving, being suspicious, or being afraid.


Paying attention is good: beyond school


We all have our daily routines which sometimes feel monotonous and mundane.  Grooming, eating, exercising, working etc. are examples of activities we do every day, and doing so can make them seem repetitious, and thus dull.  Once we get accustomed to an activity such as grooming our minds switch to auto-pilot: we don’t think we just do.  Doing an activity without thought negates any result or prolongs any result we are looking for.

paying attention gets you much more than good grades

paying attention gets you much more than good grades

When we pay active attention to what we are doing we increase our attention to the task at hand and thus focus on and achieve the result we are looking for.  Grooming is done daily: most of us brush our teeth after our meal because we have been habituated to it.  We don’t give a thought to how or why we are doing it; we do it as a ritual, as something that must happen every day. Instead of mechanically brushing our teeth if we think about why we are doing it and focus on the benefits we are receiving we will be more likely to succeed.

Similarly, when we exercise we may follow a pattern or routine that may become tedious after a while. Even if we change the routine regularly it is still doing a certain number of repetitions, a certain number of sets on the same machines.  It is not hard to see the monotony in this exercise, but if we actively participate in our workout by thinking about what we are doing: what we are trying to achieve and how we are trying to achieve it, our stretches will go a bit deeper and the weights we lift will affect our muscle mass that much more.

Paying attention does not cost anything but is invaluable.  Actively attending to what we are doing increases the chance for positive results, because doing so amplifies our interest and efforts.  When we perform a task we generally seek a particular result; when we seek a particular result the chances of it being manifested become greater as opposed to mindlessly pursuing it which results in a hit or miss situation.  For example, when assigned a specific task at work focusing and concentrating on completing that task will ensure that you achieve the intended result much quicker and surer than if you listlessly and crassly finish it. In school I had a hard time when the teacher assigned us an in room assignment; my peers would often complain of the difficulty or duration of the project which would irritate me because their whining disturbed my focus, and if they spent the time buckling down and working instead of whining they could finish the assignment more swiftly and succinctly.

When you pay attention to what you are doing you are also cancel out any unnecessary or negative thoughts by forcing your mind to stay in the present.  Thoughts about the future and past bring with them unneeded emotions that impact how we function and react in the present.  Dread, anxiety, fear, and regret are among the hundreds of feelings we get when we think about the past and future.  Ruminating in past joys or future fantasies may produce temporary elation in mood or biological functioning, but is followed by depressive hangover because we are experiencing intangible thoughts, not reality.  Although these thoughts are attractive, staying in the present proves much more beneficial.

Your body is present, but where is your mind?

Your body is present, but where is your mind?

Actively thinking and participating in the activity we are doing helps us stay present.  Habituating our mind to stay present decreases the likelihood of anxious (past or future) thoughts.    Learning to be in the present helps us enjoy and live our lives to the fullest.  When we are in the present we break free from over-thinking things, prevent the mind from using wasteful energy on unnecessary thoughts, and are able see a clear picture of what is going on around us instead of one clouded with our judgments and preconceived notions.

When you focus on the present the mind will naturally wander to the past could haves, future possibilities, and the analysis of words, actions, and meanings.  As this is the natural state of the mind, it requires effort to focus your mind and bring it back to the present moment. Eating is something we all do usually multiple times a day.  We usually do not think about how we eat as it seems like an automated task: we get the plate of food, then leave the rest to our teeth, tongue, and saliva.  We conveniently feel free to utilize this time to think, wander, and plan. However, thinking about our food: how and why we are eating may be more beneficial; the nutrients we are getting from the food and how many times we are chewing our food are the primary ways for us to focus on our food.  Staying in the present helps us keep our bodies and minds joined. When our minds become accustomed to roaming freely whenever it cares to regardless of what the body is doing, we forget how to keep focus and be attentive in the present.  Problems arise when our bodies and minds are disjointed; so before taking that quick daydream or when our thoughts stray back to past memories think whether living in your head for that time is worth missing the present moments.

The past is a compilation of stepping stones that helped form your current self so living in the past is of no use; the future is held behind a maze of doors that your current self will choose in the present if you are busy wondering about those doors you will miss the opportunity to open one.  Mind body connection is essential in achieving the results we want; staying present is an effective way to harness that connection. Mend the seeds of this connection now so you can enjoy the fruits of it in the future.